Avoiding external coarseness is just a method. But the main task for us is to eliminate our internal coarseness, including that which comes out of us. This can be attained by controlling emotions, which are states of us as consciousnesses.
Each emotion emanates beyond the body, affecting surrounding people and other living beings. And the more intensive it is the further from the body it emanates.
Solving of the task of controlling one's emotions radically will be possible only at the next, higher stages of work. But if we do not set this goal right now and start to accustom ourselves to self-control, we can hardly expect ourselves to achieve any success in the future.
For now an effective method of struggling with bursts of coarse emotions and various manifestations of egotism will be the repentance work, which we have discussed in detail above.
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We have discussed this extensively in other books [9-17]. Now I will stress that a superficial and shallow attitude towards ethic issues can sometimes produce an opposite effect compared to what was expected.
For example, we discussed acceptance the Compassion principle as one of the first steps towards Love. But does everyone clearly realize that compassion does not have anything to do with plunging into onerous emotional states of
"worrying about" someone?… People who fall into states like that become unbearable for others, especially for those whom they
"worry about". Bioenergetic impact of the fields with such characteristics sometimes can be the
"final blow" for those wounded or sick people who become subject to such "worrying". The victims may feel a desperate need to get rid of this
"compassionate" monster who overwhelms them with such a state — to get rid by all means, at the level of the deepest instinct of self-preservation which is not controlled by intellect…
Such "compassion", just like bioenergetic vampirism , ruins loving relationships between people, destroys families…
No, compassion does not mean "heavy" emotions at all, but general pure and careful attitude towards all manifestations of life, if possible, avoiding causing any unnecessary harm to anyone, as well as willingness to help everyone in what is good.