With Whom?
Without getting to know sexual harmony a person is unlikely to evolve in the correct direction, let alone to create a happy family.
Therefore, as a rule, in order to become a stable and harmonious married couple both partners have to obtain some prior sexual experience — of course, taking all necessary safety measures against sexually transmitted diseases and regarding contraception (prevention of unwanted pregnancy). Gaining this kind of experience per se must not be considered as a “sin” (see [16,18,21-22] for detailed account of what is not allowed in sexual relationships in the face of God).
Let sex not turn into a mere amusement, a means of satisfaction of one’s lust (egotistic sexual passion). But it is ethically “legitimate” if used as a way of expressing and giving one’s love in search of mutual harmony.
But it makes sense to give one’s love sexually only to adequate partners. But how can one get to know who is adequate beforehand?
For this it would be very helpful if one got to understand the philosophy of our existence on Earth, in particular to know the meaning of our lives and laws of the evolution of Consciousness. (Information about this is can be found in books [15-25]).
Those who will have read these books will understand that people differ by their evolutionary age. And this determines a spiritual potential of every person. Knowing one’s position on the “ladder” of spiritual ascent as well as those of other specific people will allow one to better determine: whom one can help and from whom one can learn.
Of course, when I say “learn”, I do not mean sex anymore. Since as we evolve we learn almost everything from one another. And if we do not just seek a transient enjoyment in our sexual relationships but attempt to establish stable and serious contacts — this allows us to get to know other people’s experience, share our experience with others, as well as to add something to our own.
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One of my female acquaintances — a physicist with a university degree — told me, “I have had — at different times — many men. And I am grateful to each of them for what I learned from them”.
I liked these words of her.
Her next man, though, turned out to be an experienced drug addict who thought of his spiritual Path as of being closely connected with using drugs. And she started to learn from him… I never saw her again since…
I do not recommend that anyone follow her example in the latter situation.
However, this would not have happened to her if she had known the meaning of her life and been familiar with methodology of spiritual self-perfection.
